November 29th, 2008
“I barely slept the night before, due to excitement. 7:30 came too quickly, but I don't mind. I'm getting married today.
I eat a quick light breakfast before my sisters arrive to help get me ready. I am fortunate to have a talented sister as my stylist for the day.
My hair is ratted, hair sprayed, curled, then sprayed again.
Makeup is applied, but not too much. I want to look natural.
After several hours ... I am finally ready.
My best friend holds my hand as we drive to the temple. We are ready to get married. To be sealed for time and all eternity."
I have been feeling so incredibly blessed and lucky lately. I can't believe it's been 5 years already. 5 amazing years. 5 years that turned me into a mother, and made me appreciate my own. 5 years to discover my talents and build myself. And most importantly 5 years of getting closer and building my relationship with this guy.
Ryan is one of the hardest workers I know. I am so proud of all that he has accomplished and his ability to provide for and take care of our family.
He has turned into an amazing dad, spending time with both kids all day on his days off. He is their best friend, and remains mine as well.
Over the past 5 years, we have had our fair share of trials, but we have remained close, relying on each other to get through.
Five things I've learned about marriage over the last 5 years are:
1 - Service and sacrifice. Marriage takes a lot of selflessness. I have found countless times, when I'm having a bad day doing something for Ryan-as simple as making his lunch, or rubbing his feet, it makes me feel so much better.
2 - Appreciation. I took for granted a lot of what my parents did for me as I was growing up. Ryan does a lot around the house and tries his best to have me come home to a clean home with dinner on the table after a long day of work, while having both kids. I try to tell him often that I really appreciate it and it definitely does not go unnoticed. This not only let's him know that I care, but it encourages him to continue to do it.
3 - Communication. Before we got married we would stay up late talking and texting every night. We talked constantly about everything. Communication is essential to every relationship. I know for me personally when I hold things back and keep them inside it just makes me angry.
4 - Time. I think the hardest times in our relationship have been when we let ourselves be distracted and we don't put time aside for each other. This is one I am still continuing to work on. With young kids it hard to get away and spend quality time together. I've been trying to limit the distractions I have, and I'm trying to be present when Ryan is home.
5 - Stay positive. With being an adult comes responsibility. Everyone has their own form of stress and problems. Work together, and keep each other positive to get through. It will pass eventually.
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